Why is it so hard to say no? As humans, we’re wired to be social animals and staying connected to others is a primary survival strategy. But it is possible to learn to say no without triggering what we perceive to be catastrophic consequences, and opening up the possibility of lower stress, more fulfilment and stronger relationships.

I recently found myself feeling very Victim when someone else did what I felt was Rescuer. It made me feel helpless, inadequate, resentful and immediately mentally checking off all the reasons why their solution wouldn’t work.

The drama triangle is a straightforward way of understanding why some conversations or relationships are difficult and how we can avoid falling into behaving in ways that don't generate productive results.

Is procrastination always a bad thing? What if it’s a place of learning rather than self-criticism?

Leaders, especially new leaders, tend to assume that knowing the answers is what good leadership is all about. What if it's not?

If a tree falls in the forest and no one hears it, does it exist? Sometimes, even if no one else notices, you are the best person to judge the quality of your existence and the contribution you are making to the world.

I went on a writing retreat a couple of weeks ago. Here are some of the things I learnt that are nothing to do with writing. You can learn things wherever you are if you are open, curious and thoughtful. Life is full of opportunities if you take the time to see them. Grab it with both hands.

What is shame? What is its purpose? How do we overcome it?

In the 21st century, we tend to assume that if we know it or think it, we can make it happen. But if that’s true, why do all those self-help books and business case studies and leadership training not translate into action on a daily basis? Especially when we need them most?